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21st-Feb-2011 07:43 pm
tenth doctor - he gets mad sometimes
So of course, of course, the first time that I feel like getting trashed in ages, I drink so much that I black out and then apparently say something (no idea what) to someone (no idea who) that manages to undermine eight years of friendship. Of course. Good fucking job, EB.
22nd-Feb-2011 12:49 am (UTC)
Wow, really? Did they tell you what you said? Was it something really that bad?

Drunk words shouldn't be taken too seriously; the alcohol changes people. But if it's enough to undermind an eight year friendship...Was that friendship really that stable to begin with? To end over one drunken comment?

It sounds to me like the other person is overreacting. But it's a seriously lame situation. :(
22nd-Feb-2011 01:47 am (UTC) - So much more than you ever wanted to know!

Honestly, no, she is not a very stable person, but it's not even as simple as 'I offended someone'.

I have been best friends with Friend #1 and Friend #2 since high school. Friend #1 has a boyfriend, who she was engaged to. He broke it off with her recently because she is somewhat crazy, into other guys, and isn't a very good girlfriend. The break up was really messy and she did a bunch of things that she regrets and is very much ashamed of, and he took her back anyway. During that period, Friend #1 and the boyfriend were both using Friend #2 like their own personal therapist, and she was having to be sympathetic to both of them all the time, which drove her insane.

Friend #2 bitched about everything they were telling her to me, because she was sick of it. Neither of them was really confiding in me, but I assumed that this was because Friend #1 is thoughtless (and knows that I am bad at advice and also that I'd just tell her to get therapy) and the boyfriend is socially awkward and bad at communicating with women, so maybe he wouldn't feel comfortable telling me any of this. I was fairly happy getting all this info second-hand, because it meant that it wasn't ME getting all the three am emergency emotional backup texts.

On Friday Night, I went out drinking with Friend #1 (who is bipolar, by the way), the once-again boyfriend, and a bunch of people that friend #1 met while she was doing regretful things during their break-up. I get hammered. I wake up the next morning at home, no idea how I got there.

Friend #2 receives a text from Friend #1 at 4am on saturday saying 'You told the things that boyfriend and I confided in you to EB, I am no longer speaking to you.'

Friend #2, who lives several hours away at this point, calls me and complains that she doesn't even have to be there for drama to attack her, and that Friend #1 is acting like a child. Also, apparently Friend #1 never actually TOLD her that this was all a big secret that she wasn't allowed to tell me, and it never occurred to Friend #2 NOT to pass it on to me, thinking that three of us were all still bestest buds.

I am baffled because it seems like what I took to be unintentional was actually a snubbing of sorts. Also, I guess that my BFF status was revoked, but nobody told me or Friend #2.

So now Friend #1 is apparently still talking to me, and comments on my facebook updates, but Friend #2 has not heard anything from Friend #1 or Boyfriend.

So I am waiting to hear back from a third party who was present that night, in case he was around when whatever I said was said and can tell me exactly what it WAS. If it's something small, I can probably fix it.

But really, I don't think that either I or Friend #2 will be terribly broken up about the whole thing. Relationships with Friend #1 are generally fairly one-sided.
22nd-Feb-2011 01:49 am (UTC) - Re: So much more than you ever wanted to know!
NOW YOU KNOW. (I need a Bill Nye icon.)
23rd-Feb-2011 04:06 am (UTC) - Re: So much more than you ever wanted to know!
TRUE STORY: Someone awhile ago was yelling someone's name and was like, "Bill!" and I immediately chimed in going "BILL BILL BILL BILL BILL!" and no one got it. And then I immediately got into doing the entire theme song complete with fake guitar riffs and the "Inertia is a property of matter!" and STILL NO ONE GOT IT. GODDAMN.

Also also sometimes when I'm giving a story like this I will go "DID YOU KNOW THAT...?" and will end it with "NOW YOU KNOW" so clearly we are just two cool kids right here.

Also also also sounds like this is probably for the best in regards to you...Just a shame it all had to go down like that. But ah well, right?

Also also also also yes you do need a Bill Nye icon.
28th-Mar-2011 12:23 am (UTC) - Re: So much more than you ever wanted to know!
KICK HER TO THE CURB. I am saying this as a psychotherapist and your sister.
10th-Jul-2011 04:22 pm (UTC) - Re: So much more than you ever wanted to know!
You are a good sister! I am in the process of downgrading Friend #1 into a Friendly Acquaintance.
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